Many years ago, I was given two solid pieces of advice. If you're going to spend money around the home make sure that you get the best bed you can afford, and the best shoes. Because realistically you spend a large portion of your life in these two things, and its essential that you get the best of both of these things. When I’m depressed, or feeling down, I spend money on lingerie and under garments. They make me feel sexy, secure and in control and it's purely for my own sense. No one else can see them, unless I’m sleeping with them, and it helps me take charge of life during the dark periods. Lingerie, and especially new lingerie helps with many things. Here's some of the benefits of lingerie.
1. Improves Intimacy:-
When you're wearing lingerie, you feel sexy, in control, in charge. Your partner will find watching you in lingerie arousing. The trick here is not to get lingerie that they like. You need to get pieces that you feel confident in. If you have a fantastic tummy line, and you know it, then get something that shows that off, if you're like me and have had a few kids and getting a bit on in life, than go a chemise style which flows gently off the skin, and hides some of the things that you want it to. Now don't get me wrong, I am proud of my womanly figure and I am proud of the scars and marks that I have received bringing my beautiful family into the world. But when you're down for sexy times, the last thing that I want to be thinking of is, do you think that he notices that scar, or that stretch mark. It's about presenting yourself in the best possible way that you can. Now that can include, some scented candles, low level strategic lighting, or even a sensual silk blindfold. The reason why you get lingerie that you feel good in, is that regardless of the lingerie, when you feel more confident in it, it’s going to show.
2. Hide flaws:-
As mentioned above lingerie has the benefit of hiding those particular marks that you want hidden. It gives you the opportunity to hide those ones and show off your best assets. If you love your ass, then go a lingerie piece that highlights that, if legs are your main thing then show them off with some fishnets, or a low cut skirt. If your breasts are your pride and joy then consider a bra cut out option, or something with an underwire, or if they're too big for an underwear something sheer or lacey.
When you're feeling more confident and sexy, your mood will change. That's why I wear new lingerie when I’m feeling down, it's an instant mood booster and will leave you feeling more confident with your life in general. Mood is a tentative thing, and it can change with a moment’s notice. You can be outside, enjoying your afternoon in the park and twenty minutes later you see someone that reminds you of a particular memory and boom, your mood changes. It can be a tedious and volatile situation at times. I'm in no means suggesting that this is a woman thing, it's not. Even men's mood can change at the drop of a hat, and that's just who we are as people. You would also notice how colour affects both yourself, and other people, and colour is a fantastic way to influence and change moods. Red has always been traditionally seen as a sultry and sexy colour, whereas white has traditionally been seen as a more pure and virginal colour. Remember, that when selecting lingerie, your colour choices will affect mood.
4. Time Spent in the Bedroom:-
The fact is that you spend more than one third of your life in the bedroom. Your choice of lingerie should reflect that. Unless it's just your have sex with me now lingerie, you want it to be both comfortable, supportive and appealing. There's little to no use in getting lingerie that isn't going to work with your body and your levels of comfort and that's an important aspect to which you will need to consider when purchasing and wearing lingerie.
5. Male Lingerie:
Lingerie shouldn't just be limited to the women as well, guys can most certainly increase the lingerie style wardrobe. Though I acknowledge and understand that there is male lingerie with lace and cute stuff like that, you could consider some leather wear, jock straps and unique underwear as part of the male lingerie range. My husband is the same as me, indeed whenever he gets new underwear I will make a point of asking how he is doing, because he buys it when he is feeling down as well.